My Heart Has An 'Open Door' Policy

My heart has an open door policy meaning you can come in whenever you want. And you can also leave whenever you want!

Imagine I invite you over to my place to play. We do some handstands, play some video games, contemplate the nature of reality - the usual. After a while you say, "Micheal, I've really enjoyed hanging out w/ you but I should get going now."

And as soon as you finish your sentence, I place myself between you & the door. I brandish a weapon & I say "No! You can't leave! You have to stay & play with me forever"! 😈

How would that make you feel? You'd probably think I was a psychopath & begin to fear for your safety, right? And the vast majority of you would start devising a plan to escape.

Which is what you should do when someone tries to hold you against your will. Which is why I don't understand why we expect people to be with us forever in relationships.

Don't get me wrong - I'm not saying you can't play with someone forever if that's what you both want. Commitment is making a choice everyday & I think it's really commendable to be committed to someone or something.

All I'm saying is that with me you'll always have the freedom to make a different choice. There will never be a situation where someone wants to leave me & I will try to keep them from doing so. If leaving will make you happy then I will be happy to see you go! And that goes for every kind of relationship I have.

The difference between love & possession is this:

Possession brings appreciation only under the condition of ownership. But true love is appreciation w/o conditions. If I love you, my goal is to liberate you, not to bind you. If I love you, then I will support your growth, even if that means growing away from me. If I say I love you, that means I want to see you happy regardless -

even if I can only witness that happiness from a distance ❤️

M.S.